about being in love with his first wife and only having the second for children. He claimed she told him to be with the other. Not a moment did he think to consider their half empty lives because he donated part of himself to each. I even asked at the end. And he chuckled explaining they both knew, understood, and were happy with their places. . . All I can think is two women silencing themselves for the sake of half a life because something is better than none… I will remain with the none.

Not all men are the same, but I have met enough men like him that don’t see a woman as a whole human and instead as whatever serves him best. Like some kind of accessory. Here I thought some clothing was tacky, this is dumpster dive level justification. Sad that because he wouldn’t choose healthy interdependence he will never have both his needs met either, just a constant pulling apart internally. And a need to maintain sexist behaviors to boot. Otherwise, he might have to hold himself accountable for the pain his unwillingness to bend created. All the while proclaiming that we are just like our parents. I ended on, ”We don’t have to be.”

Noting he seemed perfectly mannered otherwise. Despite his need to insist we are our parents- As if my voice wasn’t mid sentence. I wonder what he would do if his second demands a divorce because she met the love of her life? As long as they say they are happy… I hope they truly are. But me? I believe a lifetime partnership is possible with those who choose to connect on that earnest level from go. And to be fair: he says he does. That’s just a hard nope from my heart broke just hearing him speak. As if the second was some sort of breeding stock. Even picked someone of his race…even after complaining about his government not treating them like humans… sometimes pain passing sneaks in on us. We gotta be quicker than that.

Once again, if they are happy, all three, its wonderful for them. My issue comes in when he is clear about only wanting his second wife for reproduction. Because women are more than stock to breed with….and because she deserves the “in love” the first received. Imagine the children never knowing a home of love like that; they very well may not believe “in love” is possible. Almost like forcing them to make the same choice because he refused alternative means to parenthood…spreading those genes far more important….:(