A single being can not provide what a community is needed to do. Part of the struggle for recovery from trauma is that very few really want to face the pain. So even with someone trying to face their own, others scatter. After all if crying is consider contagious, how does it feel when someone is spiraling into the abyss?

Despite this the fact remains that to heal trauma a community is needed. So our society fosters medications and therapy. And people do these things, squashing down the experience into nothingness. All the while it lays on their back: carrying them away.

Even with a therapist the fact remains that a community is a needed aspect. Not just to care for the being who is hurting and likely struggling with self care aspects, but for the emotional support reminder that their existence deserves to be. Not only that a community that shares their pains in exchange help give various solutions but also a feeling of camaraderie. That’s right suddenly the human that is injured will lose the fight or flight to the concept that they are not alone and are worthy of being protected.

Mind you this is all by just being a friend. Listening, sharing, helping physically if need be. But mostly, the hurt being only needs others to remind them life moves forward. So yes it takes more than one or two beings involved.

Communities are an aspect of humanity we have released in exchange to survive the undercut granted by the beings in charge of the economy. What if we retook communities? What if we stood by when a friend needed to cry? What if instead of dismissal, we related? Or just held space in shared silence? Sometimes being alone is it’s own pain train.

We are social beings divided by the pains that are devouring our ability to engage. It’s really past time we took back our humanity by standing by the other….please.